It’s not as easy as “Just Trust Yourself!”
“I don’t understand why you’re scared. Just don’t jump.”
I looked at him with a mix of flames in my eyes and purest confusion I’d ever felt. I’m crouched down on all fours, attempting to rigidly bear crawl closer towards the edge of Cliffs of Moher.
I’m the one who planned this. I’m the one who wanted to be here. Yet, all my fear has turned to anger, directed at him. Pretending HE was the one who coerced me into rigor mortis on top of the stunning views of Ireland.
He tried to remind me again, “You’re in control of your body. You’ll be fine. Just don’t jump off the edge” .
He made it sound so easy, “Just don’t jump!”. As if it (and I) could really be okay if I “just” didn’t jump. But the familiar story in my mind had always been that heights were dangerous. And my body, in this exact moment, was doing nothing to convince me otherwise. I was terrified that soon, I’d be over the edge of the cliff.
The gap between how I felt in that moment and how simple he made it sound was as wide as the ocean I was looking out at.
This is how it can feel when someone gives the advice of “Just trust yourself!”
Struggling to know if you should stay in your relationship or not? - “Just trust yourself!”
Confused on if you should really move across the country for a job opportunity? - “Just trust yourself!”
Not sure if you want to have kids? - “Just trust yourself!”
Well yes, I guess if I trusted myself… then I could “just” trust myself. But what I’ve found in my decade and a half of working with people as a therapist and guide, is that it’s not as easy as the platitude makes it sound.
It might be simple.
But often, it’s not at all easy.
That’s why I created a bridge to help get you across the ocean between the overly-simplistic advice and how it actually feels in your body.
Because I agree that the answer to so many of life’s biggest questions comes down to “just” trusting yourself.
But I also know how hard that journey can be.
That’s why I created the Self-Trust Model. A framework to help guide you inward. Structure to help walk you through concepts, practices, and everyday tools to actually build trust in yourself.
You don’t have to do it alone…
You don’t even have to do it without a map…
And you especially don’t have to do it without a compass. 🧭
Join us inside the Self-Trust Stratosphere.
🚀There are free tools and resources to get you started.
🚀A Self-Trust 101 program when you’re ready to understand the path ahead.
🚀And guided groups + community when you’re ready to join other brave + badass women.
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And… in case you were wondering, I did get over my fear of heights. And I’ve gotten to be on many mountain tops because of it. Including one of the most dangerous hikes in America.
Here I am hiking (and standing upright at) Angel’s Landing, a decade after my “experience” in Ireland.
It IS possible to bridge that gap. And, it’s so fucking worth it.
